And then it was gone
This Saturday I visited my grandma after a 5 year break in relations(since my mother's memorial) 2 month ago my other grandma passed way. While at her memorial, my grandpa Wilhite showed up and informed me that my Grandma Wilhite condition had gotten much worse. He invited us all to visit her soon because time was growing shorter. A few weeks ago her steadily worsening condition started to prompt an uneasiness amongst my brothers. We sent my brother Clint in on a recon mission. He was the closest to the hospital and he had an adorable new daughter to introduce.
At the first moment I had open to visit, I borrowed a fuel effecient car and made my way south. It was a very long and nervous car ride for me to Portland. I had arranged to meet my brother Brian in Portland where we would consolidate and make our way to the ICU ward that my grandmother was staying in. We bought 'mums which we had to leave outside. no flowers were allowed in ICU. Many of our cousin's were there with kids, one of them pregnant and due a few days later. My cousingMadelience was there. She had been keeping me up to date on my Grandmas condition.
when we arrived in the room, all of the past and good and bad memories were gone. There was just the moment. my grandma, through her oxygen mask, tried to apologize for the distance between our parts of the family. Brian and I both answered the same way. I told her I knew it was more complicated than anyone involved meant it to be. But we are family and I love her. There was no reason for apologies. I told her about my wonderful new relationship and my experiences in Opera and bands. She seemed very excited about music. It was such a sweet conversation. And I felt many years of frustration and resentment melt. This fragile lady was moving towards death and she was my sweet grandma. And this was a very sad situation. i only hope that her journey through this stage is as painless as possible. I hope not to waste any more time on needless family squabbles.
Grandma was hooke dup a an oxygen machine and
At the first moment I had open to visit, I borrowed a fuel effecient car and made my way south. It was a very long and nervous car ride for me to Portland. I had arranged to meet my brother Brian in Portland where we would consolidate and make our way to the ICU ward that my grandmother was staying in. We bought 'mums which we had to leave outside. no flowers were allowed in ICU. Many of our cousin's were there with kids, one of them pregnant and due a few days later. My cousingMadelience was there. She had been keeping me up to date on my Grandmas condition.
when we arrived in the room, all of the past and good and bad memories were gone. There was just the moment. my grandma, through her oxygen mask, tried to apologize for the distance between our parts of the family. Brian and I both answered the same way. I told her I knew it was more complicated than anyone involved meant it to be. But we are family and I love her. There was no reason for apologies. I told her about my wonderful new relationship and my experiences in Opera and bands. She seemed very excited about music. It was such a sweet conversation. And I felt many years of frustration and resentment melt. This fragile lady was moving towards death and she was my sweet grandma. And this was a very sad situation. i only hope that her journey through this stage is as painless as possible. I hope not to waste any more time on needless family squabbles.
Grandma was hooke dup a an oxygen machine and
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